I was excited to write on my views of competition because it is something people act on so much. It seems like when I’m driving, other drivers act like its a race to get to the traffic light first. When I’m in the store, it’s who will make it to the line first. In life, it’s who will make the most money, get the car, house, and family, first. Its all a race. But is the race real? Who are you truly competing with? Do they know they are in a competition with you? Or is it a self-competition?
I learned early on that some were competing against me, when I didn’t even know there was a competition. When I had that realization I felt peace, because the fact that I was only concerned about my own progress and not that of others is a blissful feeling. The thought of constantly worrying about what the competition is doing and how close they are to passing you up is very stressful. It also made me realize that if I’m too concerned with what the “competition” is doing I will never be able to concentrate on myself. I have a history in acting, and if you know anything about acting and auditioning you come to accept rejection on a regular basis. What I mean by rejection is that some roles are just made for you and others are not. It doesn’t matter how well you know the character, how much you study, rehearse, and do in the audition, if you are not the right fit for the role, you just won’t get it. Over time I came to realize whats meant for me, will be for me, and whats not won’t, and THAT’S OK. Its not personal. So in that I understood the competition is only with myself. I need to strive to be better than I was yesterday. Stay prepared and ready because when preparation meets opportunity that’s when you succeed.
Having this approach has helped me to not only be happy when someone else wins, but to never feel threatened by or jealous of their success. Actually, it makes me happy to come into contact with more successful people. I get happy because I know I am attracting like-minded, driven and ambitious people in my life. When you are happy for others success you will also have people who are happy for your achievements. You will share stories and resources instead of blocking and feeling nervous of others success.
Through focusing on yourself and not others, you will truly bring about your success. Self-competition is so fulfilling, rich and rewarding. You’re constantly working hard to be the best version of yourself. Try it out for yourself, I think it will work!